Monday, June 11, 2007

How to Mentally Abuse A Person

Physically abuse a person can get you into trouble with lawmaker, but not MENTAL ABUSE. Words won’t leave any measurable physical damage, but they will cause progressive, long-term harm. Never underestimate the power of words: words are used to brainwash.

  • Words that sharper than sword – Calling them “stupid”, “ugly”, “lazy” or “worthless” hurt them. The first times they hear it, it's like having sharp sword cut through their heart. However, do not over used it. In time they “may get used to” hearing it, thus the effect lessen. The words used would eventually bring them down, killing their confidence and belief in themselves.
  • Always told that it’s their fault - Somehow, whatever happens, however it starts, the ultimate blame is always theirs. Notice that we are talking ultimate blame here. If you are at fault, turn the table by telling them that your behavior was caused by what they said or did. In fact, your argument runs along the lines that they can’t possibly blame you for anything.
  • Make them believe in you more than they are to believe themselves - What it means is that they have become so brainwashed they’ve stopped trusting in their own judgment. Their mind keeps throwing up the observations and questions because, deep down, they know that what is happening is utterly wrong. But right now they can’t trust their own instinct.
  • Get their sympathy vote - Make them hear what you are saying and apologize for the hurtful things they’ve said to you. Make them guilty for the pain they’ve caused. When they are constantly listen to your feelings, that is, unquestionably, mental abuse for them.
  • Demand more, its never enough - They do everything they can to make you happy, but it’s never good enough, always ask for more. These work best if your are highly desirable by them. Let them think they live in a love-based relationship, when in reality they are living in a control-based relationship. You have created a feeling of personal power, at their’s expense.
  • Make them feel unsecure - Put fear in the relationship. Outburst whenever they say or do hurtful things. Threaten them a little bit, create some fear of losing you in their heart. Fear is a vital part of a mentally abusive relationship. It enables you to maintain control over them.

Having said that, we have to be aware that mental abusive may cause enormous emotional damage to the victim because they are mentally working defending against it. Some may take it well, while some may struggler. Not knowing their limit can cause undesirable damages, like mental illness, shooting rampage, suicide, even worst homicide with your blood spattered around the house.

Therefore, you do need to work a programme specifically geared to mental abuse recovery. Just in case......